Turning your life choices over to a government is not a democracy.
What have you voted on recently? Anything? Which of your choices, concerns, recommendations are being addressed at the level of government? Any?
I think in order to move to a better way of living the realization that we in the US don’t have a democratic system must be accepted. Once accepted we can deal with our situation realistically. Until then we will only repeat and exacerbate our past mistakes.
The non-democratic system will continue to grow, via the current model of ever expanding military imperialism, until there is no reason for it to hide behind rhetoric. At that point pretense and pretending will vanish.