When Feelings Get The Best Of Us
I was watching a less commercials internet TV channel last night and was struck again by how “All” of the problems and suffering in people’s lives is due to emotional attachments to things and ideas. Yes, I went ahead and said ALL. A few years ago I would have said most but I can’t find any exception.
I said this to that lady I’ve been hanging out with and she said, “That’s right, that’s why I don’t get emotionally involved with people. I stay detached…”. After I’d stared at her for a few seconds I said, “You are an emotional attachment”.
As earth people there’s little chance or choice that we are not passengers in our own little emotion-mobiles. The thing is we think we’re driving. We think we’re making decisions, stopping here, going there, that we alone have decided it’s the best route to the best destination. Or maybe the most sensible route to an inevitable destination.
The thing is we’re born with great imaginations and some emotional tendencies combined with some instincts. Then, with little input from what could be called – us – we become what we are: The Emotional State.
The Emotional State: Knowing and Hoping
Most of what people tell me they know is not knowable. We may or may not know some things about some things. But we can rarely, if ever, really and truly know anything. Not our fault, it’s just not possible to know things.
We may know how to build a bridge but do we know why we’d want to?
Do we know those leaves are green? I know some things about the leaves are green process. I know something like – our perception of color is dependent on energy wave patterns interfering with energy wave patterns. In this case leaf energy and Sun energy – basically. I also know that we’ve agreed to call that activity green.
Most of what people say they know is nothing more than an agreement. Lots of people say they know what the best form of government is, others tell you they know what god wants for earth people. These are agreements among people who choose to agree on something then choose to agree it’s knowing. Why did they choose to agree? Why did they choose to say, “We Know” at all?
The emoticar we’re riding in steers itself toward knowing. It’s taught that knowing, being sure, is good. It may choose to agree that family ties are important, that a being created earth people, that true love between a couple is the greatest of prizes. It can be taught to believe anything.
Are we just riders on an apparent journey? Is life a journey? Am I where I’m at, living where I live, with whomever I live with because of my own logical decision? My sole decision? What were those decisions based on? Were my choices based on unbiased observation or emotional dictate?
If we can’t hear the voice in our head we can’t do much in the way of self examination. Be still a minute and be aware of what the thought voices are saying. Listen to them and observe them. This is – not being the passenger. The passenger isn’t separate from the voice. Until we are aware, of some, of what’s going on inside the mind we can’t make decisions as to whether we ride or drive.
Some I knows are:
- I know that when I die I’ll go to a better place
- If I work hard I’ll get what I’m after
- If I get this I’ll be happy
- This (fill in the blank) is important
Are these “I Know” statements? Or are they “I Hope” statements?
No one knows what happens when we die. People hope they’ll go to a better place. So I know is said to convince and somehow comfort. It’s still not knowable.
I guess the main point I’d like to get across is: There’s nothing wrong with imagining and hoping as long as we understand we’re imagining and hoping. Claiming to oneself and others that we know the unknowable is unnecessary at best. At worst it’s the road block to discovery, understanding and eventually “hopefully” wisdom and happiness.
Here are a couple of my favorite quotes:
A belief which leaves no place for doubt is not a belief; it is a superstition. Jose Bergamin
“To know that we know what we know, and that we do not know what we do not know, that is true knowledge.” Henry David Thoreau
“The trouble with the world is not that people know too little, but that they know so many things that ain’t so.” Mark Twain