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When I first got clean I had all kinds of ideas about this. I guess my first idea was, I had no idea, so I figured I’d got to meetings every day and talk to people. That was a good idea
As I started to think clearer and learned more about myself and my thinking I got some different ideas about why I was staying clean, while most others were not. I knew I had a lot of bad data about life and people and a lot of goofy thoughts and ideas, so I set out to find all this goofy thinking and faulty data and get rid of it. That was a good idea
Eventually I was examining every belief I had about everything. I ditched those ideas about god, yes I had no higher power I could name, all the ideas about values, morals, good and bad, purpose, about every thought I had in my head, and started over. This is an ongoing process and for me a good idea
But I think, more than anything else, why I stayed clean is because I really wanted it. I was just done with the pain that addiction turned out to produce. I was done having my situations trashed. I was sick of dealing with all the bad things addiction brings with it.
Now that I write this, isn’t that what the recovered say? We were sick and tired of being sick and tired? I doubt many people will do what I do. I haven’t met any. But I bet the people that stay sober will all tell you they’d had enough of being addicts
We know as addicts that we act when the pain out weighs the gratification. After more than a decade of sobriety I’ve yet to meet anyone who I would say has quit for any other reason than to end their own suffering.
We who remained with our addictions long term more than likely wrecked or damaged some parts of our bodies. I have all but ruined my knees (more…)